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Our motto is a “A wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime.” Think of all the preparation you have done for your career or job. Most us spend years studying or learning. Think of the preparation taken for your wedding day. Most people spend months planning and many dollars preparing for their wedding. But how much time and effort do we spend preparing for what we hope will last 50 or 60 years – our marriage?

Ask yourself this question, “Am I willing to spend 44 hours devoted to hearing ideas and learning skills that will help to make my marriage the best it can be?”

Here’s a few frequently asked questions to make sure you and your fiance know what to expect before embarking on this journey together.

What should we bring to the weekend?

Please be sure to bring the following items with you:

  • Sweater/jacket for cool evenings
  • Comfortable casual clothing
  • Dress clothing for Mass
  • Toiletries, medicines and other personal items/towels, face and washcloth*
  • Snacks and Drinks (e.g., soft drink, juice, water, chips, crackers, etc.)

The following items will be provided on the weekend. You do NOT need to bring these items:

  • Linens (Sheets, pillows, blankets, towels and washcloths)*
  • Notebook and pen
What time should we arrive?

Oahu couples, please arrive between 6:30 – 7:00pm. Weekend will begin promptly at 7:30pm.

Neighbor island couples please arrive between 6 – 6:30pm. Weekend will promptly begin at 7:00pm.

If there is an emergency and you must be late, please call your scheduling couple.

  • Hawaii Island:  Fred and Patti Basilio, 808-961-2442
  • Kauai: Deacon Dave Kane Kauai Island Contact Immaculate Conception Parish (808) 245-2432 (Office hours are 8:00-12:00 p.m. M-F)
  • Maui: Fred and Eileen Corpus, 808-281-0353, 808-281-0188
  • Oahu: James and Donna Lyn Baquio, 720-900-4633
  • Molokai: Dcn Mike and Leoda Shizuma, 808-553-5583
Do we have to stay for the entire weekend?

It is very important that you stay for the entire weekend. If you arrive late or leave early you will miss important parts of the weekend experience, and we will not be able to give you your weekend certificate and letter verifying your attendance.

Will dinner be served on Friday evening?

Dinner will not be served on Friday. On Saturday, three meals (breakfast, lunch, and dinner) will be served and on Sunday, two meals (breakfast and lunch) will be served.*

Can you accommodate my special diet needs?

Our cooks will do their best to accommodate your needs. If you are a vegetarian, please let us know at the time of your registration.

Will I have a roommate?

Each of us will have a roommate of the same sex during the weekend. This does not apply to the neighbor islands because these weekends are commuter weekends without sleeping facilities.

(While EE recognizes that couples may already be living together, you will not be permitted to share a room with your fiance on the weekend.)

What will my room be like?

It will have a bed, dresser, writing table in each room. On Oahu, separate community bathrooms/showers are provided for men and women.*

What should we wear?

Dress for the entire weekend is casual. Please dress comfortably. However, you might want to bring modest clothing when we attend Mass on the weekend.

Where is the weekend held?

Weekends on O’ahu are held at St. Stephen’s Diocesan Center in Kaneohe off the Pali Highway and at other locations on the neighbor islands. Each couple receives specific location and instructions typically one to two weeks before the start of a weekend.

Is parking available?

There is ample parking at the various facilities where the retreat weekends are held. It is free of charge with no additional cost to the weekend.

Are there any ground rules for the weekend?

Yes, we do ask that you observe a few basic rules:

  • Please refrain from the use of alcohol and illegal drugs
  • Please stay in your assigned room
  • Please do not leave unless an emergency arises. (Speak to a presenting team)
  • All of our facilities prohibit smoking. You may, however, smoke outside 20 feet from any building entrance according to the laws of the State of Hawaii.

*Asterisk next to some items applies to Oahu weekends only!